Rambling on about your ex
Okay, we know that a few months from now, you thought you would never have to go on a first date again. We know you couldn’t stop thinking about him from the moment this date was set. We know it’s hard to get over someone you held so close once but the person sitting in front of you has probably gone through the same things.
He isn’t here to listen to you rant about your ex or start repairing your broken heart from day one. He’s here to meet a new person, to forget the past and to have a good night and that is exactly why you were here too. So stop discussing your ex and why you guys broke up and try to get to know this new person sitting right in front of you.
Using your phone the entire time
So your friends were even more excited about this date than you were and they keep texting you to ask how it’s going. Put your phone down and do not reply. If someone starts calling, cut the call and tell them you’re busy. If you just got a Snapchat from someone, ignore it. Everything can wait a while except this new person in front of you, this person who can and should get insulted if you act like you find your phone more interesting than him/her.
Talking about all the horrible dates andrelationships you’ve had
If the only topic of discussion you find funny or entertaining is the number of horrible dates and relationships you’ve had, the weirdos you’ve met along the way, and the crazy situations that you’ve had to tackle, then you have definitely got to stop. The funnier and crazier the story, the more badly it reflects on the kind of person you are and the choices you tend to make. Sure, if this person actually starts liking you and this first date evolves into something bigger, then you can tell them everything without any fear of judgement. But if it’s just your first date, then stop this instant, because these stories can wait a little.
Discussing about your work the whole time
Ever since your breakup, you’ve focused all your energies on just one single thing- your job! You don’t remember the last time you partied with your friends or watched a season or went on a trip. Your job has been the complete center of your attention for a long time now and you feel like it’s the only thing you know. Now, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t even mention it or try to explain the work you do but don’t go into all the tiny details of every excel sheet you’ve ever made and every presentation you gave in the past one month.
Hogging the conversation
Everyone loves to tell their stories, talk about their experiences, discuss their friends and family but you always have to be careful and make sure that you allow the other person to do the same. Do you tend to keep talking for an hour about your own life and the minute the other person starts to talk, you interrupt them with a really funny story you just remembered? Then this is a big no for your first date as well as all the dates to come.
Checking in the mirror again and again to see how you look
I know you feel a constant urge to make sure that your hair is in exactly the right place but trust me, the only person who cares about that is you. The person sitting across will find it extremely weird if you can’t stop checking yourself in a mirror after every two minutes and if all your self-confidence will seem to rely on the way you look.
Giving no personal opinions at all
You don’t want to offend anyone and you definitely don’t want anyone to make judgements about you. So you decide to maintain a neutral stance on almost any topic your date tries to start, whether it’s about politics or religion or just the world in general. You do not reveal anything about your actual views and opinions and it’s not long before your date gets extremely bored and uninterested.
Not offering to pay the bill
When you’re out on a date, it is never one person’s responsibility to pay the entire bill, regardless of whether you’re a guy or a girl or whether you’re better off financially or not. Whoever ends up paying the bill, it is common courtesy for both of you to offer and insist on paying it. It reflects the kind of values you have.
Staying really serious
Just because you’re meeting this person for the first time doesn’t mean you can’t show them what you’re actually like. Don’t put on a fake and mysterious face. There’s nothing more beautiful on a person’s face than a candid laugh. So tell them all your silly jokes, laugh at theirs and just try to enjoy yourself.
Ending it with lies
This is your first date. You’re not obligated to agree to a second one and neither is the other person. If you didn’t feel the connection, if you still feel like you’re not ready for this, then don’t try to come up with lies to ditch them when they ask you out again. Just be honest about how you feel and don’t let the other person hanging.
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